If someone showed you a blank piece of paper with a black spot on it and asked you to describe what you see, you would probably say, “A black dot.” You would be right – but all around the black dot is a large piece of white paper. We almost always focus on the one thing that’s wrong, but often don’t notice what’s right, especially in our relationships. Keep perspective. Focus on what is good. You are on the same team. You married because you love each other. Don’t let a few black dots come between you.
You may not be able to change the other person, so pray, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.” Make an effort to listen to and understand each other. Deal with issues rather than dwelling on them. Pray together.
Black dots will happen. There will be conflict and disagreement. Your forgiveness of your spouse is essential – for them and especially for yourself. Forgiveness is choosing not to retaliate, not to dwell on the hurt or injustice. Not forgiving can kill you and your marriage. Forgiveness takes a black spot and wipes it away.
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